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on Feb 15, 2013
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What -- no BWF?
Here's what I think, as a more 'seasoned' member of the formerly dating population. On-line dating can be good for three things: 1 -- identifying folks who are in the dating market. As one who is notoriously dense at reading signals, it was helpful for me that my fellow seekers had declared themselves. 2 -- a photo is a nice-to-have, albeit some pics were old enough to have been from previous incarnations. I am not so deep that it doesn't matter at all to me, nor so shallow that I won't admit it. And 3 -- the written description gives you both a preview and something to talk about on that first encounter. I had written mine as a real estate sales come-on, hopefully humorous, and my fiancee wrote hers in a mystery novel format. Click!
Our story is that I'd been on Yahoo for some time with some success, however you may wish to define it. Every week, they'd send around descriptions and photos of the new, uh, signers-up. I was immediately smitten by one such entry, but concluded (correctly) that she'd have suitors lined-up down the block. I decided I didn't want to get lost among that crowd, which was easier than telling myself I was terrified. I was shocked -- and further terrified -- when SHE emailed ME (the hussy!), but eventually summoned the courage to respond and we went to dinner.
Anyway, that was eight years ago. It took a while to get her to cull the herd of admirers, but she did. I'm still trying to be humorous, she still lets me, she's still a mystery, and I adore her! On-line dating didn't 'cause' our relationship, but without it, I doubt we'd have met. Dating is supposed to be fun -- so go have fun!
As a couple of empty-nesters, we feel quite isolated here in the cloistered San Ramon Valley. We're unchurched by choice, and concerned that there are very few outlets hereabouts for folks to otherwise meet and commune.
No, we're not swingers. We want to find a group of people we can have fun with, talking about ideas, events, our families, etc. Over dinner, wine, in the parks during the summer -- wherever!
We think this neck o' the woods needs a website that could be a clearinghouse/meetingplace for folks like us -- we can't be the only ones, can we? -- not for dating, but for friendship and real "community."
Does ANYbody else feel the same way? Anyone? Bueller?
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