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Living - January 25, 2008

The 411: 'Despicable behavior' is the norm on campus

by Katharine O'Hara

"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

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Posted by Hal Bailey, a resident of another community
on Jan 25, 2008 at 8:05 am

Dear Dolores,

Ms. O'Hara wrote well and with depth about a problem generated in high school that invades our culture throughout our adult life. Intimidation, defamation and discrediting is a dire problem of "Bullying" in our high school cultures and it continues into our adult lives and cultures.

Somehow we should hope that many more high school students would join Ms. O'Hara and stop this cycle that continues generation-after-generation into our adult culture and from the adult culture back to their children.


Posted by Paul Simon, a resident of another community
on Jan 25, 2008 at 10:33 am

Kodachrome Lyrics
Artist(Band):Paul Simon

When I think back
On all the crap I learned in high school
It's a wonder
I can think at all
And though my lack of edu---cation
Hasn't hurt me none
I can read the writing on the wall

They give us those nice bright colors

Posted as reference, "Is High School Obsolete?"


Posted by Hal Bailey, a resident of another community
on Jan 26, 2008 at 7:51 am

Dear Dolores,

I received this comment from a former MVHS student:

"..and there is all kinds of bullying in high school including teachers, coaches and parents encouraging students to bully a fellow student. I am one of several students that transferred from our area high schools because of environments that encouraged bullying about sports participation, academic participation, and activities participation."

Our communities can easily accept that it is "six of one and a half a dozen of the other" and assume that victims of bullying somehow share the blame by attracting such actions by the overall school culture. It is a simple reality that such bullying is not a rational part of education or any culture and it doesn't belong in any part of our community for any purpose.

EDITOR, there is more stories here for Jordan's further reporting.


Posted by Sarah, at OSU, a resident of Alamo
on Jan 27, 2008 at 9:54 am

Posted by request of the author

Dear Editor,

I was a student at MVHS and SRVHS prior to transferring to a private high school. As a future secondary teacher, my goal is to be a more effective part of my students' education and high school experience. My own experience with teachers, parents and students that choose to bully students to participate in various activities and conform to certain unwritten codes was made worse by individual students that physically abused me and school administrators that did not intervene.

Bullying should be a continuing feature in The Danville Weekly because is is surely continuing today for many unfortunate students that are targets.


Posted by Hal Bailey, a resident of another community
on Jan 29, 2008 at 7:07 am

Posted information resource requested by Alamo region neighbors

Grade levels: K-12
Established: 1988
Enrollment: 405
Principal: Joan Diamond 10540 Albion Road
San Ramon, CA 94582
479-1200 (phone)
479-1297 (fax)

Venture is an independent study school for K-12 students. Students from the San Ramon Valley Unified School District may enroll at Venture School at their request. The San Ramon Valley Unified School District encompasses the communities of Alamo, Diablo, Danville, San Ramon, and a small portion of the City of Walnut Creek. Students from outside the district will be accepted upon administrative approval with a signed interdistrict transfer.

Posted by Oxymo Ron, a resident of another community
on Feb 1, 2008 at 1:26 pm

Dear neighbors,

In many joyous notes to me from towns named Alamo and Poplar in North America, the one theme was that somehow "high school" is a sacred institution that should not be violated as a rite of passage to being an adult. Clearly, most people agreed that high school is a form of hazing that somehow is meant to teach students survival techniques for the "real world."

Such an oxymoron was a great source of laughter because the real world does not have contrived rules and competition akin to high school or does it have any social culture that matches the uniqueness of high school. In the final assessment, most responders agreed that "why should our children escape being screwed up by high school just the same way we were?"



One HAL of a Pal

Posted by Debra Carson, a resident of San Ramon
on Feb 3, 2008 at 11:39 am

Dear neighbors,

This story has provided reasons for our neighbors near California High School to consider the alternatives to creating more facilities for education versus creating more educational alternatives. I would like to thank Cal High and SRVUSD for the information and services provided for education alternatives.

For many students, now and in the past, high school has not been an educational opportunity best suited to their specific needs, their family culture, and their social viewpoint. It is excellent to have options to the social pressures of high school.

Thank you,


Posted by Sarah Grace, a resident of Walnut Creek
on Feb 6, 2008 at 12:54 pm

Posted by request of the author

Special Group Study Programs:

Recently I participated in a conference for tutors that contained a presentation of small study groups being formed as a home-school or venture-type program. The study presented dealt with five high-school students that are part of a ballet company and do their high school study in a group. The program focuses on core study requirements and special study related to performing arts as history, music, dance, writing, and more.

It would seem our SRVUSD could support such groups via their venture and home-school programs and focus on various special interests of the group. Most interesting among the presentation noted were groups that were conducted in corporate settings and focused on various sciences.

What level of interest is there for such programs?

Livorna neighborhoods
Walnut Creek CA

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Posted by Biff Tomkins, a resident of Alamo
on Feb 11, 2008 at 10:41 am

Hey nerds, shut up and give me your lunch money!


Posted by Oxymo Ron, a resident of another community
on Feb 11, 2008 at 4:29 pm

Ah, Biff,

Nerds carry credit cards and they DO lunch. If fact, NERD's is so '70's and does not describe any current student.

But as your humor illustrates, high school is likely obsolete for a portion of our students that feel put upon by the high school culture.


One HAL of a Pal

Posted by Carly Wells, a resident of another community
on Feb 11, 2008 at 6:38 pm

It should not be a matter of humor.

Our children are not adults jaded against the assault of others. There are so many ways to attack our young students on-line and face-to-face that we should not laugh at the long-term impact on how they feel about themselves.

Making a high school student smile is a good intention but we should never ask them to suffer what has become of high school.

Green Valley neighborhoods

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Posted by Moron, a resident of Alamo
on Feb 13, 2008 at 10:16 am

Nerd is a phrase used by many; it's not a "70s" term.

Posted by Ron Hodges, a resident of another community
on Feb 17, 2008 at 8:32 am

Posted from All things Alamo & Pop(u)lar

Dear neighbors,

Moron and oxymoron? Nerd is a term from the past used by individuals long past high school days but not past its mentality. I agree, high school is an impact of individuals that many spend a lifetime to overcome. More and more, that impact is negative and full of labels.

Ron, Alamo Heights TX

Posted by Hal Bailey, a resident of another community
on Feb 20, 2008 at 7:59 am

Dear neighbors,

The Contra Costa Times, Time Out section, has an article today on cyberbullying and references to further information on the subject.

Hal Bailey

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