Unfortunately for many couples, they wait six years -- yes, six years -- before getting help. That is definitely enough time for rose-colored glasses to become clear and then brown (you do know what I mean).
What can I do today to improve my marriage?
- I can step back and little and notice what is going on between us.
- I can look for my part in our interactions.
- I can determine if I am living out what I said in my vows.
- I can take three deep breaths before I answer my beloved.
- I can remember that he is my beloved.
- I can come home earlier.
- I can turn off my devices at 8 PM and engage with her.
- I can wonder about my own defenses to intimacy.
I hate to be the reminder of bad news, but we all have limited time here on Earth. When we're 85 and looking back on life, what will have mattered? Are we doing what we believe matters?
My good friend who is a financial planner and strategist says if you want to know your priorities look at your checkbook (credit card statements) and your calendar.
Ask yourself: Where am I right now? Take three deep breaths. Look around and notice in great detail what you see. What do you hear? What do you notice in your body? Do you feel a breeze on your skin, sweat, the steering wheel under your hands?
So before it's tomorrow again, what matters today?