By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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Repeating Myself: for Your Marriage
Uploaded: Jul 8, 2016
This is so important, that I am going to repeat myself: If your relationship is in trouble, do something about it NOW!
The research shows that many couples let things go for six years before coming to counseling. Many couples go much longer, caught up in work, kids, ailing or aging parents, etc.
If you spend six or more years letting things go downhill, how long do you think it will take to turn them around and be on the upswing again?
There are many blogs here to read and discuss together. Maybe that will help.
Hopefully you've tried everything you know how to do (vs. letting it go), and it's time for outside help.
Divorce is expensive emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, as well as financially.
Care for your relationship every day, week, month, and year. And if you need help get it!
Getting outside help is not a weakness; it shows strength in judgement and caring. You just need more tools and learning around communication. You're probably even good at these things outside your home; it's hard once you cross that threshold because the greatest risk/reward exists with your partner.
What is it worth to you?
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