By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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I watched the moving video of Craig Sager receiving the Jimmy V award
at the ESPYS. He had on another one of his outrageous jackets.
Craig thanked his wife, and talked about how they are in the process together; whatever it is, she's right there with him. He talked about the power of love. He acknowledged his kids, right after thanking his wife. Craig also spoke about time, and essentially how we each get to choose what to do with each and every day we have here.
How do you want to spend your time? Being kind, loving and connected with one another? Or fighting, arguing, being right, and disconnected? Don't start off a conversation in an accusing way. Say, hey I noticed this, and it's not working for me, it hurts my feelings, or that crosses my boundaries.
Or, try, Hi, my beloved. Here are a few things I truly am amazed by about you.
Your choice -- every day.