By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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I Need Your Help Naming my New Book
Uploaded: Apr 13, 2017
Hey, wonderful readers,
A 52 year-old heroine stars in the romance novel I’ve started. Caroline is a psychologically sophisticated woman. She’s VP of business development at a downtown Palo Alto company and mother of two college age kids. Her friends encourage her to put a profile on Match.
She finds a wonderful man and falls for him. They will find ways to overcome their internal fears of intimacy in mid-life. A rupture of some kind will occur (still figuring that out). After recovering from that, they will be madly in love.
In our culture, women become invisible as we get older. We’re still interested in sex and intimacy! We also become more focused, less willing to put up with BS, and many have the time to make a difference in the community.
As a couple therapist, part of my goal in writing this book is to highlight that it’s quite possible both mid-life spouses are still interested in sex, even if their sex life is limited or practically dead. A sex life can be reignited within a marriage. Maybe they don’t know how to talk about it, or it’s a taboo topic for them. Perhaps by talking things through, some men won’t leave a long-term wife for a younger woman once he realizes his wife is still interested in sex (sorry for the generalization, but we’ve all heard many stories).
I’ve told my 20 year-old son that the book will have hot, steamy sex, and his reply was, “I won’t read it.” My reply was, “Got it. You’ve been forewarned!” We had a tremendous laugh.
I’ll keep you up to date on my progress, and share snippets now and then.
Please post lots of book title ideas!
Thank you very much.
What is it worth to you?
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